Hi everyone, I am back posting about Raising Boys by Steven Biddulph after posting consecutive memes…and doing other stuffs, too! Anyway, after sharing with you 3 stages of boyhood, all about testosterone, helping your boy to be a new kind of man and what dads can do and the last one that I’ve shared couple of weeks ago is about mothers and son! Today, I will be sharing with you how to develop a healthy sexuality for boys.

So, here’s it in a nutshell:

• Teach boys about the difference between liking, loving, and lusting (which you can find the difference at the bottom). All are okay, but you shouldn’t mix them up.
• Have small rite of passage when he enters double figures (i.e. reaches age ten) and give him some positive messages about sex.
• Guard against creepiness by teaching your son to be respectful of all people. Help him to find settings and activities where he can get to know girls as friends.
• Discourage the trend to sexualise boy-girl relationships under sixteen years of age.
• Remember that boys, too, want to be loved, not just ‘sexed’. Affirm and support their romantic side.
• Help them keep their bodies alive through dance, drumming, music, massage and so on. Continue to hug and show affection to your sons as long as they are comfortable with it.
• Tenderness is learnt by receiving it—from babyhood onwards. The real lessons about relationships are learnt by age three.
• Masturbation isn’t just harmless, it’s good for you.
• Discourage pornography; discuss it and its messages. Don’t shame a boy for his interest, but talk about what good erotica is—i.e. respectful, happy, and involving relatiosnhips—and perhaps help him find some.
• Mothers can help sons understand what girls like in young men—kindness, conversation and a sense of fun!

Love is powerful and often very confusing, The simplest and most helpful thing young people need to understand is that there are three kinds of attraction:

• LIKING – is a mental spark, shared beliefs and preferences, and the spark of another mind.
• LOVING – is tender, warm, melting, a heartfelt emotion. It has a sacred kind of dimension.
• LUSTING – is spicy, hot, hungry, aching, tingling—need we go on?

Well, young love is a lot to do with sorting out which is which. Mistakes are inevitable; the trick is to go slowly enough to be able to discover if the attraction has more than one dimension.

Three more topics to shared with you and we are done with boys…I am done reading the book, thanks God…but  I will be starting reading Raising Girls soon.

Anyway, how was your weekend? We had fun yesterday at Monkey Business, kids got so tired playing and went straight to their bed when we got home…hehehe, drinks at Flavours Restaurant then dinner at home! I thought I escaped watching a movie with K when I gave Isabelle  bathe and put her to bed but I did not, he played it again and we watched it together when little princess is sleeping already, its an old movie titled Casablanca, don’t know if any of you are familiar about it, its still black and white but I tell you, its a good movie…most movies makes me sleepy but that one keeps me awake and was able to finished it until the end!

Today, its busy Monday…but we went out in the afternoon (was about to bring our little girl but she still sleeping) to set a dentist appointment next week and we had some coffee while talking things, its another good day! We did a lot together today!

Wishing everyone a great week and let’s keep praying for everyone’s safety! I am still feeling bad to just what happened to Japan! On the other hand, I am thanking God for all the blessings and for keeping us safe!