Another chapter from Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph but this particular chapter was co-written by Shaaron Biddulph…Well, do you still remember that first, quiet moment, when your new baby boy by lying in your arms and you got your first real chance to look at him—gazing at his little face and body?! I do…that was more than eight years ago and my first born child was a boy…he made me cry not because I am sad but I am so happy to have him and fight for his life.

Anyway, here’s the Mothers and sons chapter in a nutshell written on the book…

• Giving birth to a boy brings to the surface how you fel about males in general. Be careful not to land too many prejudices onto this innocent little boy.
• If you aren’t experienced with males (such as through growing up with brothers) then ask men to tell you what it’s like being male. Don’t be afraid of little boys’ bodies!
• Little boys learn love from their mothers. Be kind and warm, and enjoy them!
• Teach your boy about girls and how to get along well with them.
• Praise your son’s look and conversation so he feels good about himself.
• Adjust your parenting as your son gets older. Keep a close eye on safety and the healthy balance of his life, stepping back more as he gets into his teens, but never losing contact with his world, his concerns and whether he is getting out of his depth.
• In adolescence, let him learn from the consequences of his actions (or inactions), such as being late for school if he dawdles. This is the age for learning more about responsibility.
• Encourage an affinity with food preparation from an early age, then enjoy the results. Being of service is the key to lifelong self-esteem.
• Take care not to have big fights in adolescence, especially if you are a single mother. Calm down, then return to the issue logically.
• If you are strong, capable kind of mum, then be careful that you don’t displace your husband from being close to the kids or doing his part pf the parenting. You and your boys need him involved. Encourage your son and their father to grow closer!

Reading this, I learned that mum need to be confident and proactive with their boys, helping them to be okay around with opposite sex. Also that a mum is a ‘practice girlfriend,’ and we are teaching our boy how to get along happily with women. And I didn’t know that we are setting the pattern for all his future relationship. Well, I am learning so much with this book and so many unexpected things that was being brought up…

And if you missed my posts about this book before, please check the firsts chapters which I posted before: 3 stages of boyhood, all about testosterone, helping your boy to be a new kind of man and what dads can do. I am sure these 4 parts will do a lot…you’ll learn a lot from it, so don’t miss it, ok! Please go back now and read, its never too late! And as we go along, or as I go along reading it, I will be sharing more chapters for you to read on!